Stop Setting Alarms on My Biological Clock
So why don't I have kids or even the inkling right now? It's because of you. Yes, you: the fanatical mothers of the world. It may seem like ages ago now, but you weren't always like this. You, too, were sneering at the obnoxious parents who brought their infants to fancy, adult, nighttime restaurants or R-rated movies and let them carry on, ruining things for other patrons. You've been terrible advertising for the club that you so desperately need others to join.
If you want me to join your ranks—and you've made it clear with your cold, clammy hands on my stomach that recruiting my uterus is of paramount importance to you—I need to set some ground rules.
First, please stop asking me when I'm going to get pregnant.
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Next, don't completely abandon your own life and passions. You're setting a bad example for aspiring mothers-to-be like me.
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Now let's talk a bit about manners, as in please teach your children some. The world has rules, and kids should learn them. And being well mannered does not infringe on their individuality and freedom.
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Finally, don't make your kid an extension of your own narcissism.
No one could possibly love your kids as much as you do, so stop inflicting them on others. Don't bring your kid to adult parties when you're not sure if it's kid-friendly. If they didn't invite your kid, they don't want your kid there. If you don't want to get a babysitter, stay home.
My husband thinks some people, particularly mothers, behave in these ways because it helps them validate their own choices. But he doesn't truly understand how infuriating it is, and that's because nobody badgers men with questions about procreation.
Similarly, stop by this blog to read a recent reaction to the Mama Don't Preach article posted a while back.
Seriously, we don't need MORE of a population boost. And if they find that later in life they actually -want- kids.., they -can- always adopt. Its not like there are a lack of irresponsible humans in the world. The ones who suffer most because of this irresponsibility, are the children.
So let them live as they will, and don't force propaganda down their throats. Okay?
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