Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Woman explains why she can't be friends with mums

New Zealand Herald
"It wasn't for lack of either of us trying, just that catch-ups became incredibly difficult to schedule and on the rare occasion they did happen, they were typically overrun by breastfeeding and baby talk," she said. The Australian journalist points out that, while she is thrilled for her friends, there is a sense of loss for her that comes from losing that friend to their new baby.

"I've been happy for all of my friends who've gone on to have children, to see the joy it's brought them, but a part of me feels a sense of loss at the same time too, because I know the relationship won't stay the same, and will likely at some point inevitably end."

Have you had this problem? I have been able to hang on to my friends with children, although the vast majority of my friends don't have any. I think the key is that I typically make friends with driven, professional women. I have never had a friend suddenly unable to talk about anything but children, perhaps because they are lawyers, math professors, and others with graduate degrees that evince a strong interest in something other than motherhood. It's possible that someone can change and lose all interests outside their children, but I have been lucky so far.

Perhaps my own background lead me to choose these kinds of friends, as my own mother spent her life as a dedicated teacher with interests outside of us. She has said in no uncertain terms that she would never have been comfortable with an identity that revolved around us, once even recoiling when an old classmate adopted the screenname "MadisonsMom"

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Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Would you give up having children to save the planet? Meet the couples who have

The Guardian
The UK-based organisation Population Matters wouldn’t call for human extinction – even in jest – but it does campaign against population growth which, it says, contributes to environmental degradation, resource depletion, poverty and inequality. To its list of influential patrons, which already includes David Attenborough, Chris Packham, Lionel Shriver and the primatologist Jane Goodall, it has recently added the racing driver and environmental activist Leilani M√ľnter. She’s an eloquent positive-thinker. “Never underestimate a vegan hippy chick with a race car,” is how she describes herself online.
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Friday, June 01, 2018

Parents Refuse to Leave Wheelchair Space for Disabled Patrons

Shocking moment disabled woman is told she can’t get on bus as pram is in ‘priority space’ – just minutes after court case victory for wheelchair users on exact issue 

Wheelchair-bound Lib Dem peer barred from boarding bus after driver refused to ask parent to move buggy

Disabled man forced off bus by refusal to move pram sparks equality test case

   Apparently, this problem was so widespread in England that a man had to take his case against the bus company to the Supreme Court. The law now states that disabled passengers have priority, and that merely requesting that parents move, but not requiring to do so, was not enough. Apparently, parents had often refused to move, meaning the wheelchair-bound person was unable to get on that bus. I am not too fond of some of the websites linked above, so I apologize for linking them. I couldn't find the first story on any other site.

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Wednesday, May 30, 2018

How To Make New Friends As An Adult Without Kids, According To People Who’ve Done It

Bustle
People who are child-free by choice can encounter difficulties when their social circles either shrink, become unavailable, or start to feel kid-focused to the extreme.
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One of the major social benefits of kids is that it's easy to read the room: you're all here to pick up a toddler, watch five year olds on the swing, or supervise a birthday party. Without those rhythms in place, things can feel like they lack structure — like when you moved from high school to college and suddenly all social interactions become much less rigid. "
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Saturday, May 19, 2018

‘We need to normalize being child-free’

US racing driver on population control
"Not having a child has been the biggest way for me to reduce my impact on the planet," Munter, 44, told Reuters on Wednesday. "If you look at the numbers, the Earth is finite, and the human race cannot keep growing infinitely with only so many resources. We need to normalize choosing being child-free," she added.
While we have some wonderful childfree celebrities out there, I don't believe many have taken it on as a cause in this way. Don't read the comments if you want to keep your blood pressure low - the comments claiming we need to breed more people quickly devolve into the racist rhetoric that is often behind such thinking.
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